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The start of the academic year is often a peak time for many student counseling centers. Not surprisingly, many first-year/incoming students seek counseling due to anxiety about moving away from home and being in a new environment. A 2024 report on Frobes.com discussed the importance of understanding homesickness in college students. As indicated in this report, homesickness is a natural and expected reaction to being away from established attachments while experiencing significant changes. Homesickness can even serve as a sign of secure relationships and meaningful lives that were enjoyed prior to starting college. However, the concept of separation anxiety is vastly different from homesickness. As explained in a 2007 study in the Journal of Psychology, there was a time when symptoms of separation anxiety were rarely considered for college students. However, this study found that 21% of first semester college students reported such symptoms.
What Is Separation Anxiety In College Students?
According to a 2025 report on Healthline.com, a defining characteristic of separation anxiety in adults are emotions that are developmentally inappropriate for being away from home or attachment figures. The term developmentally inappropriate is used to describe emotional responses that are significantly more intense than expected given the student’s age. A formal diagnosis of adult separation anxiety also requires that the symptoms endure more than six months and negatively affect social functioning and responsibilities.
Even without a formal diagnosis, intense separation anxiety and/or excessive homesickness among incoming college students can be detrimental. Refusing to attend classes, frequent panic attacks, and having nightmares about leaving home are commonly reported by students with these struggles. It’s also important to note what separation anxiety is not. These struggles do not equate to hating the school, not having friends, or being weak. Students with these struggles are in real distress, and this distress is not a matter of personal choice. Coping with and reducing separation anxiety is possible, but it’s essential that students don’t personalize their symptoms or become self-critical.
The Role Of Distress Tolerance In Reducing Separation Anxiety
Counseling methods that are effective in treating general anxiety also tend to be effective with reducing separation anxiety. A 2024 report by Pacific Neurocounseling discussed the effectiveness of treatments, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, and provided other ways to help overcome adult separation anxiety. It’s often helpful to view separation anxiety in college students as a matter of distress tolerance. According to a 2024 report on VeryWellMind.com, distress tolerance refers to a person’s ability to manage actual or perceived emotional distress. Students with high levels of separation anxiety often have low levels of distress tolerance. Fortunately, the ability to tolerate distress can be improved upon.
The first aspect of improving distress tolerance is learning how to minimize distress, which is a vital coping skill that’s often established during the traditional college-aged years. According to the report on VeryWellMind.com, healthy distractions and positive mood boosters are ways to avoid a sense of dread for students who are missing home. The second aspect of improving distress tolerance is learning how to increase tolerance. It’s important for many students with separation anxiety to accept when they’re experiencing distress and intentionally respond to this distress.
As stated, separation anxiety is not predicated on a specific campus, meaning that these struggles are likely to occur whenever student leaves home. Though incoming students might feel embarrassed by their struggles with separation anxiety, many counseling centers have services designed to reduce these struggles. Seeking help to reduce separation anxiety can result in many students staying in school as well as better enjoying their college experiences.
